Looking for a Date vs. Looking for a Job

I'm getting ready to meet Bob for the first time. We're having a casual conversation over coffee, so I don't want to look like I'm trying too hard - but I also want to look put-together, confident, successful. Let's see - is the suit jacket too much? I looked at his picture on-line, he looks pretty laid back - but there's nothing worse than showing up, and realizing that you're under-dressed. Especially if everyone else ends up being dressed to the nines.

Ok, so I go with the suit jacket, but a colorful tee-shirt underneath (because I am hip and young, and I can definitely go with the flow). I realize that I'm starting to sweat a little bit, because I'm nervous - and blow drying my hair takes forever. What Bob doesn't realize (if I ever see him again after today), is that I never blow dry my hair - it's always up in a ponytail. But if we get that far in our relationship, he'll realize that long after I've established myself as a crucial part of his life.

Then there's the whole timing thing. I don't want to be too early, because then I look desperate. But I don't want to be late, because that's just rude. And it might be a turn-off if he thinks I'm one of those people who is always running late to things. Right, so that means I have to be 15 minutes early - and that means I need to get going, like, right now.

As I drive to meet Bob, I run through my standard intro - the basic facts that I want to convey, but in a natural, conversational way. No lists of accomplisments or anything like that - just breezy, casual, little ol' me, with key references to where I went to school, what I've been doing since then, what I'm hoping to do in the future (but only if HE asks me the "future plans" question - never bring that up first!).

By the time I find a parking spot, check my lip gloss in my rear view mirror, and change out of my flats into my heels, I know I'm going to be there just in time for our agreed upon meeting time - and that's when it hits me: Am I am on my way to a first-date or an informational interview? Because at this point, even I can't tell the difference between the two.